Like I said: you seem like you’re a really interesting person and I’d love to get to know you. Hope to talk to you soon, YOUR_NAME”
Give it a somewhat offbeat subject line in order to stand out from the crowd – I’ve always had success with “Pirates are inherently cooler than ninjas” – and send it on its way. It takes slightly longer than hitting “wink” (unless you’re like me and kept two to three variations in a text file that you could copy and paste in as needed…) but it’s also far more likely to get an actual response instead of a silent eye-roll.
This is possibly the biggest time-waster when it comes to online dating: taking too long to actually ask her out on a date.
Look, I get it. If you’re not the most assertive or confident person, you may not feel comfortable asking somebody out on a date early on. You may be trying to feel things out and get to know them.